8 Ways to Leave a Lasting Impression

Rant:

I have written about rebelling against the perception that when we reach a certain age, in the eyes of society, we no longer have much to contribute, see: Three Reasons to Revive Your Inner Boomer Well, the heck with society! There are ways we can circumvent that idea. We can leave a permanent mark on this world, on our children, grandchildren, friends and relations. In other words, we can leave a lasting impression.

What do I mean by leaving a lasting impression? To me it can be a shared thought, a deed, a profound experience, like the way someone shows up in a particular situation, that causes others to shift their actions, shift the way they show up, forever.

 

Rave:

We are all aware of people who made lasting impressions on us, whether famous or every day folks. I have a feeling if given the opportunity to ask who influenced them, they would have said their mom, dad, teacher, grandparents, preacher.  I started New Age Aging to share the lasting impressions my 95-year-old Mother has instilled in me and many others. See: When “Do As I Say becomes “Do As I Do”.

Producer Brian Grazer (Splash, Apollo 13, A Beautiful Mind) was interviewed by contributor Scott Simon on CBS Sunday Morning, March 29th, 2015: Brian Graser’s “Curious Mind”.  Simon states, “Grazer had trouble reading as a boy, but his grandmother Sonia didn’t just see the D’s and F’s on his report card.”  “She identified my strength which was to ask questions, to dig inside of subjects, to dig inside of people.  She told me that would have a great value in my life. And it did”, Grazer says, as he chokes up.

My step-son Jesse’s grandfather Herman was a sailor, magician and kid-at-heart.  He taught Jesse how to sail, how to do magic and much more.  Judging from the tattoo that Jesse has honoring Herman, it says everything it needs to say about the influence this man had on his grandson.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Impressions that change our lives can come from not so positive places, too.  When I was 5 years old my Dad’s dad was bemoaning all the regrets he had in his life.  I remember saying to myself right then, “that will never happen to me.”  It was the beginning of my rebellious nature. Thanks, grandpa!

 

Attitude:

How can you create lasting impressions in your life?

–Do what you say you are going to do. Come from a place of integrity.

–Be curious. Take risks.

–Give back to this world.  Mentor.

–Look for the strengths in people. Tell them.

–Know that words are a powerful tool.  Use them wisely.

–Honor yourself and others: old, young, gay, straight, black, white,…

–Play, play, play.  Let them see the child within you.

–And, most importantly, live your best life…with few regrets.

If we can embrace these attitudes, I’m pretty sure we will have accomplished our goal: To say to those who would make us invisible…”GOTCHA!”

 

(Leaving a lasting impression is different from your legacy. Ann Ranson at intentionswork.com encourages people to gather, celebrate and share their stories. This is an intimate and loving gift to their families.)

 

 

Originally posted 2015-05-04 09:55:04.

Embracing Change is Complicated

Rant:

In the 1988 Die Hard movie, John McClane (Bruce Willis) is crawling through an air vent, being shot at by bad guys, repeating his wife’s invitation with a tone of sarcasm, “Come out to the coast, we’ll get together, have a few laughs…” Yes, John McClane had to embrace change. He had no choice. Neither did I.

”Maybe we’ll re-do the kitchen this year. Paint a few walls…” That was my husband and me recalling what we said at the beginning of 2014, as we surveyed the damage to our home from a flood April 30^th  which destroyed our first floor and basement (we live in a 3 story townhouse). A storm catch basin owned by the City of Alexandria and located at the back of our property, became blocked and poured water into our home for 2 ½ hours. We lived in our third floor bedroom, along with our 90 pound dog Sam, from April 30^th until the second week of December 2014. The City of Alexandria has claimed Sovereign Immunity, which basically means they think they are not liable for the damages. Add to that no flood insurance, the dust, the contractor issues, the noise, the close living quarters and it made for one heck of a 2014.

‘Wow, that’s quite a story,’ one could say, ‘ enough for one year.’  And they would be wrong.

This also happened in 2014:

My 94 year old Mother had a second hip replacement and had much more difficulty recuperating. We also had the ‘we don’t think you should be driving anymore’ conversation.

I lost a junior high school friend, in an instant, who had everything to live for.

My husband and I grew stronger as partners.  We stuck together, got angry together, threw our hands up together and cried together.

I trained 5 days a week to row in a premiere East Coast race, called The Head of the Charles, in Boston, Mass.  The pinnacle in many rowers’ careers.

Great friends and neighbors moved away.

With a friend’s encouragement, I walk/ran a 10K across the Chesapeake Bay Bridge.

A friend was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I rowed a 13 mile race with 7 great teammates and we won the gold medal for our category.

And, the hardest of all, our beloved Golden Retriever Sam died suddenly in December, one week after the last contractor walked out of the house.

 

Rave:

The day of the flood our neighbors came running with towels, grabbed furniture, the art, the dog, and got them out of the way preventing any further damage.  Family and friends helped pack the house so we could move everything that wasn’t damaged into storage.  Invites for dinner and drinks and offers of money (can you believe that!) kept us sane.

I raced the Charles with 3 incredible women who never stopped encouraging and challenging me. Our son and daughter-in-law, along with my husband and friends, came to Boston to cheer us on and celebrate our accomplishment.

I witnessed grace from my friend dealing with breast cancer.

I reconfirmed to myself that I was in good enough shape to place 21 out of 90, in my category, in the bridge race.

My mother is healthy, happy and living life to the fullest, with the help of an aide who has become a wonderful friend.

It was the first time that my husband and I cried together.  We have known each other for 13 years. It was over the death of our Golden Retriever, Sam.  The knowledge that we felt safe with each other to share our grief, raised our intimacy to a new level.

We had a memorable celebration on New Year’s Eve in a beautiful ‘new’ home that reflects both my husband and me.

 

Attitudes:

Embracing change is complicated. When things happen that are out of our control we feel vulnerable and powerless. I’ve gone from grief and despair to elation and excitement and back again.

What I learned is that every time I said ‘yes’ to something within my control, I took my power back.  I found within those ‘yes’ moments I was more present and appreciative than I had been in a very long time, even before the flood!

The universe throws curves our way, nothing can stop them.  We do have choices, however, in how we react.  Even when it is really hard, create opportunities to say ‘yes’ or recognize those opportunities being presented to you where saying ‘yes’ is an option.  Go ahead. Take your power back, even for a little while. What I wish for you is that the end result finds you grateful for having experienced it all.  I am.

 

 

 

 

Originally posted 2015-01-16 20:18:12.