5 Myths About Aging Debunked

Rave:

Myth number one debunked:  Your age doesn’t have to dictate your style!

Case in point:  Some of Mom’s shoes and one of her tops:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Hi Ma, whatcha doin?”  “I’m playing in my closet” she says.  And I think to myself, “I wonder how many 95 year old women ‘play’ in their closet?” She is trying on clothes to either have lunch with a friend, go to the hair salon or the grocery store!  Mom’s philosophy about her style is to buy clothes that appeal to her.  She doesn’t think whether clothes are ‘age appropriate’.  She thinks about how they look on her, period.  She buys timeless pieces because eventually “they come back in style.” Every once in awhile, she’ll catalog shop and buy a new outfit to ‘update’ her wardrobe. Her clothes are bright and happy.  When I am with her, there isn’t a day that goes by that someone doesn’t compliment her on how she looks.  I think they are surprised to see what they perceive as an ‘older’ woman, dressing with style and panache and they like it!  BOOM!  Debunked!

Myth number two debunked:  Desire may change but the need for connection and touch never does!

I read an article in the Washington Post Magazine www.washingtonpost.com/magazine recently, about flibanserin, the ‘female viagra’.  The FDA has approved flibanserin for pre-menopausal women. Frankly I was steamed!  What about the POST-M women?  There must not be anyone at the FDA who is over the age of 55!!  Then, I remember an incident with Mom about 5 years ago: There was an article sitting on her counter titled something like, ‘Teach a man to kiss the way you want to be kissed!’  “So Mom, what’s with this article?”, I say.  “Oh honey, how do you think Bern (her boyfriend) would feel if I gave him this to read?  He’s just a little off in that department.” BOOM!  Debunked!

Myth number three debunked:  You are never too old to find true love!

I received a call at the beginning of September from my dear friend Beverly, who has been single since before we met, which was in the early ’90’s.  She told me she had found the love of her life who asked her to marry him and could they get married in my home?  “WOW! of course!” I screamed!!   Beverly has lived in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico for more than 20 years. She is the owner of a very successful business called,  lifepathretreats.com.  She wrote these remarks for my last blog http://newageaging.com/if-i-knew-then-what-i-know-now-part-two : “I feel so fortunate to have had all of the experiences that I have had as a single person to understand the importance of  being myself, loving fully, being happy being single and being present in every moment. The experiences that I had and the lessons I have learned have given me the wisdom and insight in order to love with abandon and yet maintain my own self. It’s truly a gift.”  Michael is 75.  Beverly is 68. To add to myth number three debunked: Mom and Bern met when they were both 84.

BOOM!  Debunked!

Myth number four debunked:  Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean you have to act that way!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mom laughs and plays all the time.  She reminds me to play and laugh and goof.  It’s good for the soul!

BOOM! Debunked!

 

Myth number five debunked:  You can have an eclectic, interesting, diverse set of friends at any age. Mother cultivates relationships with people of all ages.  She calls to check on them and they call her.  They share meals, go to the movies and attend each others’ parties.  BOOM! Debunked!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Attitude:

Do not allow yourself to be defined by books, magazines, society, other people or the media when it comes to growing up.  Let’s show them that this aging process is so much more than we have been led to believe.  BOOM!

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Originally posted 2015-10-21 20:33:24.